Cedar City, Utah Jul 18, 2019 (Issuewire.com) - Internationally Renowned Professional Relationship Experts and Master Certified Coaches Alonzo and Rebecca Cahoon have helped countless couples – from everyday people to the rich and famous – understand exactly what is needed to have a fulfilling, happy and passionate marriage. These five tips are based on their program Creating Spectacular Relationships.
1. Commitment
If you give yourself a way out, when things get tough, chances are you will take it. We need to look at relationships as something we give regular time, attention and care to, the same way we give time and attention to our businesses or children.
2. Time and presence
This means putting down the phone, turning off the television and making your spouse a priority. All too often, once a couple marries, they tend to stop working on the relationship as they focus on other aspects of their life, like children or work. Relationships need continuous daily attention.
3. See the best in your partner and the relationship.
We must develop the habit of focusing on the good. Seeing the good in others is a habit and way of thinking. Your partner could be the most amazing person alive but if you have a habit of seeing what’s bad in life, that habit will apply to your relationship as well. If you are constantly seeing the flaws in your spouse (or yourself) that is an indicator that it may be a good time to change some of your own habits. A spouse may not be perfect – no one is – but if you choose to focus on the positive attributes of your partner and really appreciate who they are, and remember to look at your own positive attributes as well, the quality of your relationship will grow.
4. Practice patience
This is a timeless principle that should be utilized when interacting with others. We must learn to recognize that our partner is a completely different being with different wants, values and fears. We all have different expectations of how things should be done and different rules about what’s right and what’s wrong. However, we often forget all of this when it comes to our spouse, which spirals us into upset when our expectations are not being met. Long term relationships require having patience and stopping long enough to communicate with our partner about both of our needs and wants.
5. Forgiveness and unconditional love
Starting relationships require the regular use of unconditional love and forgiveness. The foundation of this begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Often, we strive to be perfect 24 hours a day/ 7 days a week. We also unconsciously hold our spouses to similar standards creating upset and even resentment when perceived errors are made. Supporting your spouse long term means that there will be times that they make mistakes, and those mistakes may hurt, which is the nature of mistakes. However, we must have the emotional fortitude to recognize that our spouses will make “mistakes” and be willing to love them through it. As a matter of fact, most often it is during times of hardship or “failure” that our spouses need our love the most. Practice letting goes of old hurts or perceived losses. Love your partner through the trials and you will become a stronger couple because of it.
According to Rebecca Cahoon, “Like most things in life, increasing the quality of your relationship can take time; however, utilizing and incorporating these five tips into your life can lead to a fulfilling, happy and spectacular relationship.”
For more information about the Cahoon’s program Creating Spectacular Relationships, visit https://creatingspectacular.com/.
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